When to Say “No” to Your Travel Companion
A boundary is when you communicate your limits to the person you are travelling with. To communicate a limit, you usually have to say “no.” People have limits about many things, and many times these limits change depending on the situation. However, some things are not negotiable, and you have to say “no” and maintain a boundary when you are assisted by a trip companion or when you are providing the companionship service.
You should say “no” to any request that puts you at risk for:
- Not being able to continue your journey.
- Getting injured in any way.
- Ending up responsible for something that is not your responsibility.
- Revealing private information.
- Your travel companion does match the name and photo shown on the TripCompanion app or the passport/driver license.
- Your traveler does match the name and photo shown on the TripCompanion app.
The next list contains examples of when you must say “no.” You must say “no” if:
- Your travel companion or anyone else at the airport asks you to carry their carry-on bag or purchases abroad through security or customs.
- Someone asks you to carry something for them in your bag.
- For example, dried or packaged meat, cheeses, fruit, medicines, plants or animals. Certain kinds of chemicals and of course weapons are things you do not want to have in your bag either.
- You are asked to lift something heavy that you cannot safely lift.
- For example, a bag full of too many souvenirs! Buying gifts for everyone makes suitcases very heavy. When selecting souvenirs, try to select small, lightweight items. Or better yet, have the souvenirs mailed to your destination, so you don’t have to deal with them at all.
- Makes a request beyond what you negotiated before the flight.
- For example, if you are a trip companion and you negotiated travel companion services for one person, but two or more people need your assistance.
- Another example, you are asked by your trip companion to pay for her meal at an airport food court.
- Someone asks you for money, donations, or your passport/ID/credit cards.
- Makes a medical or asks for help in the bathroom with toileting needs beyond accompaniment to the toilet door.
- For example, if a mother asks you to change a baby’s diaper or provide personal hygiene service.
- Wants you to administer medicine to someone.
- Any activity of a sexual nature.
- Someone touches you, and you are not OK with touching.
- Touch can have meanings in different cultures. For example, when meeting someone in some countries you bow but in others a handshake is acceptable.
If the person does not respect your boundaries, you need to physically distance yourself from that person and even tell someone else about the problem if it continues. It is good to tell someone who has authority, such as a flight attendant or airport security personnel. If this is a problem that does not require immediate attention, you can also write to firstname.lastname@example.org.
Trip Companion takes your safety seriously. If someone you met through our app is not appropriate with you or others, you should give us feedback.
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